INNER MIND: November 2015

Friday, 6 November 2015

Research Says That Men Who Help With Housework Are Likely To Have More Sex

Dr Matt Johnson, from the University of Alberta, claims that men who share a fair amount of housework with their spouses are likely to have better and more satisfying sex. He has based his research on a study of 1,300 German couples.

Although, the work differs and means different things in every couple's life, the study is based on who is more of a presence in household chores. If they both have steady, full-time jobs then it becomes imperative that work is distributed in an egalitarian way for the couple to enjoy frequent and happier sex.

Cultural differences and the male-female power equation in a society are also defining factors.

Dr Johnson said, "Rather than avoiding chores in the hopes of having more sex, as prior research would imply, men are likely to experience more frequent and satisfying passion for both partners between the sheets when they simply do their fair share."

Because, when one partner lags, the other will eventually pick up on the slack or let the work pile up. This leads to brewing of ill-will, bad feelings and a sense of being disrespected by the partner, which are not ingredients you need in your sex life. If you're sharing work, these situations are very unlikely to arise and you will be able to have a better sex life.

So, who's doing the dishes at your place tonight?

Wednesday, 4 November 2015

make better than best

Sure, you have no control over how big/small your package is, but you can certainly tune your performance in the sack by improving your function and mastering some moves.

Here is our top list

1. Planks

Exercises That Will Make You Better At Sex

Core strength is a must when it comes to holding a majority of the more adventurous (and regular) positions in bed. She'll also thank you when you're able to carry on longer than usual when your core strength doesn't stop you from taking a breather after a quick minute. Hold these planks for as long as you can, for three sets.

2. Deadlift

Deadlifts are great to build your leg and hip strength. With strong hips, you'll be able to thrust your hips in bed like the Bollywood stars of yesteryear. Aim to lift as heavy as you can for 8 to 12 reps, for three sets.

3. Interval Sprints

When she screams 'faster faster', ensure that you don't get out of breath by getting your sprints right. 20 seconds of sprinting followed by 10 seconds of rest in a continuous cycle for 8 times should certainly get you going. These also make you lean and mean which will attract your partner even more.

4. Bar Squats

Bar squats in particular have a great effect on your testosterone output. Sorry, machine squats do not count. Make these a staple in your workout and you'll be itching to hit the sack to show off your gains! Aim for as heavy a weight as you can squat with good form. 8-12 reps for 5 sets. Your hips will look like the peach emoji, as an added bonus.

5. Kettlebell Swings

Another winner for strengthening your hips. Form is pivotal in this move. Think of the movement as an 'Elvis hip thrust'. The power is generated through your hips, forming a bit of a snap. Your arms purely guide the momentum that your hips create. Aim for 20 seconds of swings followed by 10 seconds of reset for a total of 8 times.

Sex addiction

Sex addiction is not a myth – it’s a serious problem. It’s time we start talking about it. Here are 6 facts about sex addiction we bet you never knew.

1. Those people who suffer from Bipolar Disorder are more prone to becoming sex addicts. When they’re in their manic states, they tend to engage in high risk sexual activities.

Facts About Sex Addiction That May Surprise You

2. Substance abuse is also seen to develop an addiction for sex in people. It could happen when they’re in the process of it or when they are trying to quit, because sex acts as a substitute to their addiction.

3. People who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder also fall prey to sex addiction very often. If uncontrolled, they can harm themselves in the process.

4. In a lot of cases, sex addicts had a history of being sexually abused during their childhoods. Studies suggest that sex addiction is their way to deal with their trauma and take control of their lives.

5. People with Asperger’s syndrome or other disorders that delay one’s intellectual growth are at a high risk of getting into harmful sexual activities.

6. A lot of people who are not sure of their sexual orientation and preference have also been known to have fallen prey to sex addiction.

Tuesday, 3 November 2015

Sex has long transcended its mere function to procreate.

It is now regarded as the steamy engagement of passion and physical desires. As more couples open up their sexual prowess to wider realms of experimentation, the issue of favouring one technique over the other is often questioned. With this article in hand, those questions will now be answered.

Wild Sex Redefined

Wild sex is all about the passionate thrusts, audible pleasures and chemistry so sizzling, that it threatens to set the air on fire. Couples are increasingly relying on vigour and aggression, to shake up their lovemaking skills. The mere thrill of the act is what makes this approach so appealing. Kinky is the new mantra, and taboo topics like mutual masturbation, prolonged foreplay, BDSM and sex toys are fast making their way into the bedroom. Wild sex has been wrongly associated with one night stands, the fact remains that it has been used to achieve newer heights of pleasure by couples in committed relationships as well. Although spontaneous attempts are more popular in achieving sexual pleasure, at times, planning to be down and dirty has its magic too. Penetrate her from behind, starting with a slow pace and eventually building up the motion. If she permits, grab her hair. The depraved treatment involved in wild sex is enough to make sex electrifying.

Do you want to experiment with BDSM? Handcuff your woman to the bed and play around with light whipping, ass spanking and genital probing. Then when she’s begging for more, take her forcefully and let your bodies do the rest. Build a natural rhythm and stop thrusting only when you need to tease her. Wild sex need not be restricted to the bedroom alone. With one’s creative imagination and unbridled passion, sexual games can be played anywhere. Is your girl a thrill seeker? Then having sex in public places will give the most intense pleasure. The degree of ‘wildness’ is dependent on the couple’s mood and the intensity of desire. Often performed insensitively, wild sex can offend your partner. So it is essential to make sure your partner feels comfortable about being adventurous.

Defining Mild Sex

Mild sex is the comparatively intimate and gentler approach. This plays less on physical aggression and more on the emotional connect. Passionate kissing, slow but deep thrusts and loving eye contact, set the mood for this kind of lovemaking. This kind of sex induces feelings of intimacy and a sense of belonging. Set a romantic ambience. Light some scented candles. Kiss and let passions run high. Mild sex is a popular approach among women in committed relationships. Gentle caresses, oral sex, intense foreplay and long sexual intercourses are the main features. Bite her neck gently while thrusting slow and deep. Pin her arms down and keep them above her head. She will savour this feeling of surrender and will keep you coming for more.

At the end of the day, the intensity of one’s desire will be able to choose the right approach on its own. All you have to do is make her feel good; your bodies will take care of the rest. Have fun!

Best Ways to Sex Tease Your Partner

It is said that the best moments in sex are the moments before the act.

The gentle caresses, the playful exchanges and the seductive glances set the mood for an orgasmic overture to follow. While preparing for a ravishing night of romance, you should leave no stone unturned in arousing your partner the right way. Read on!

1. The Gentle Touches

If you’re sitting close to your partner and want to lead the conversation on to lovemaking, start with playful caresses. Look deeply into her eyes as she speaks to you. While she watches, suggestively lower your gaze to her luscious lips. Let her play with your fingers and hold her hands tightly, as she is about to let go. Let her playfully struggle with your grip, while you gently pull her closer to you. Turn her around and make her lean on your chest. Use your hands to gently caress her skin and slowly inch down. Kiss her neck gently. Her soft moans will signify her arousal and before long, she’ll be begging for more.

2. The Playful Chase

Playing hard to get is an arousal technique used by women to induce a chase. If your woman tends to playfully evade your advances, you can take it up a notch and pursue her throughout the house. Make sure that you are gentle with her and you keep the mood light and passionate. The elusive chase will only heighten passions. Once you have her in your arms, titillate her skin with gentle caresses. Hold her in your arms and kiss her deeply. The passionate intensity of the chase and the overwhelming kiss will make her go weak in the knees.

3. Ice Cube Slivers

Once you have set the mood, you can always turn the heat up by introducing the ice-cube technique. Gently run a cube of ice over her skin and watch as she squeals with delight. While caressing her skin, gently graduate the ice cube to her erogenous spots and watch as she begins to feel the heat of the situation. Gently touch her lips with the ice cube to have her body react with pleasure.

4. Blindfold

Tie a blindfold around your partner’s eyes and play hide and seek. As her flailing arms look for you, gently sneak up from behind and passionately kiss her on the neck. Take care not to let her trip over furniture. You can also try feeding her with her blindfold on. The temporary visual impairment tends to heighten the gustatory and olfactory senses. Tie a blindfold and make her sit down. Make her taste a spoonful of dripping honey or melted chocolate. You don’t have to be meticulous while feeding her. Remember that some messes can be very arousing. Besides, think of the orgasmic bliss of watching a thin line of honey dripping down her luscious lips. Feel free to act on your desire to lick it up. This will send shudders down her spine. Let her bite into a cherry and soon follow it up with a passionate lip lock. By the time you’re finished, she’ll be swooning for more.

When you wish to be intimate with you partner, you only need to be a little creative in translating your emotions to a physical approach. With these tricks up your sleeve, you will have your woman teeming with sexual desire, in no time.

This Woman Wore FitBit While Having Sex And The Internet Orgasmed

So this happened. A woman wore FitBit while having sex with her partner and uploaded the results - nicely explained in 'stages' - for our benefit.

She took to Reddit under the alias of noveltysin and said that her FitBit began tracking her heart rate 20 minutes after she'd engaged in foreplay. The illustrative graph, shown below, captures 8 minutes and 59 seconds (wait, WHAT!?) of her sexual extravaganza:

FitBit recorded her "fat burning range" at 109 beats per minute (bpm) which peaked to 123 bpm when she first orgasmed. Noveltysin wrote, "Wore my FitBit heart rate monitor during sex. Beautiful." She also said, "Everyone focuses on the time. I lose track of it. Time stops. I'm happy."

She also explained how she's a "fit lady" and how her heart rate was higher at the gym than it was while having sex. According to many health service proponents, however, sex is not a better workout, and thus, cannot be seen as a replacement for exercise.

While many promised to carry out this experiment with their respective partners, others questioned her orgasming BEFORE her beau. This is what people posted:

"I can't wait to try this! First, I'll need a fitbit. Then a volunteer..."

"I'd like to wear one when I eat a pizza."

"8:59, is this guy an Olympian?"

"Wife and I had sex the other day. We finish and her first words are "Let's go get a burger." I'm so in love with that woman."

"Wow 8 minutes. That's like... 7 more minutes than me"

"8 minutes? Probably still longer than my last relationship."

"If people are impressed with 8 minutes of sex.... I have a disappointing lovelife ahead of me."

"9 minutes!? Knees give out?! Afterschock?!"

All said and done, the results are quite impressive. Anyone up for wearing a monitor during sex, more power to you!

Foreplay Tips That Will Make Her Go Crazy In Bed

No matter how many times you’ve had it, you’re always looking forward to it. Yes, we’re talking about sex. And nothing ensures some great sex like good foreplay. Here are 12 foreplay tips that your woman would love.

1. Dirty Talk

Foreplay Tips That Will Make Her Go Crazy In Bed

Foreplay can start much before you actually get to lay your hands on the girl. Heat things up by dirty talking just before you two hit the bedroom. Whisper in her ear what you plan to do to her and she won’t be able to resist you.

2. Touch Her At Different Places

Run your hands down and around her body, graze them against her inner thighs, touch every inch till she melts in your hands as you give her a long, passionate kiss.

3. Pay Special Attention To Her Ears

Bite them gently, lick them, breathe into them as you give her a slight tug on her hair and you’ll definitely put her in the right mood.

4. Massage Her Sensitive Areas

Starting from the neck and going all the way down to behind the knees, massage every sweet spot in her body and watch her go crazy.

5. Take Off Her Clothes, Slowly

When it comes to undressing her, never rush. Take it slow; tease her into the act of getting naked. Break the monotony by kissing her bare body every now and then.

6. Surprise Her With A New Move

As you kiss her down the neck gently, catch her off guard by unhooking her bra with one hand – a move she just won’t be expecting. It’s not that hard – just slip your index finger and middle finger under her bra strap and unclasp it using your thumb and forefinger.

7. Play With Her Breasts Right

Most women complain that their men pay attention only to the nipples. Spend a good amount of time discovering new sensitive areas on and around her breasts, come back fro more every now and then. That’s exactly what she wants!

8. Multitask

A tongue, two hands, ten fingers – endless possibilities. As you play with her clitoris with her fingers, lick her breasts or run your hands over her body and she’ll be groaning and moaning in no time.

9. Kiss Her Inner Thighs

Kiss her legs and move up. Gently kiss her inner thighs, lick them. Move further up but don’t touch her vagina. The wait will make her go crazy every second. Make her beg for it!

10. Look Her In The Eye

While it may not be a big deal for you, women love it when their partners look into their eyes while making love to them. It guarantees a higher level of pleasure in women. So, keep her hooked on to you with a passionate gaze as you work your way around her hot, naked body.

11. Lick Her clitoris

Go down on her and lick her clitoris with the tip of your tongue. Be gentle at first. If she wants you to be rough, you’ll know. Hit the right spots and you’ll have her squirming with pleasure

8 Tips To Give Her The Oral Sex Experience She Will Never Forget

Pleasuring women in bed is the most underrated Herculean task. While all men love to think they are experts at it, fact is, not even half of us can give her the climax she craves. Wondering what your game lacks? Well, it definitely is the apprehension about ‘going down on her’. Just like men embrace oral sex, women love it too! So prepare yourself well by following these 8 tips and let her know you are an expert.

1. First things first bro, get yourself comfortable with the idea of going down. Most men are pretty reluctant in going down on a woman but you better step out of that territory if you want her to want you in bed. The more comfortable you are down there, the more are her chances of orgasming.

2. Talk to your lady about it and make her comfortable with the idea of it. Don’t hold back and tell her what you feel about going down. And, of course, what she expects you to do. Women often get too self conscious about how long it’s going to take them to orgasm. Let her know that you are in no hurry and she can enjoy the ride as long as she wants.

3. Read her with your touch and listen to her body language. The way she responds to your touches is your sureshot guide to navigating your way through her body. Pay attention to how she moves and how her breathing pattern changes.

4. Your tongue is your tool here, so put it to the best use. Start from subtly kissing her and as you start moving down, use your tongue to tease her. Kiss her navel and lick her thighs before you do the dirty.

5. Play with positions, but don’t get weirdly creative. If she’s open to suggestions, try lifting her pelvis up or placing a pillow under her butt.

6. Move ahead like a crescendo. You need to build up a pace and go up from there. The speed, pressure and the motion of the tongue go hand in hand. While some women prefer side-to-side motions, some might find extreme pleasure in the up-and-down rhythm. Try mimicking licking an ice cream cone. That’s a great cue!

7. Don’t be shy of using a vibrator. No, it’s definitely not against your male ego. If she enjoys it, you might as well just use it to amplify her experience. If you do this, she’ll only think of you as a sex god.

8. Always remember, your goal is not to get her to climax, it’s to give her a good time. Don’t be so goal-oriented. It’s not an ego-boosting exercise, play it like you are showing her how important she’s to you.

7 Best Sex Positions For First Timers

The first time we have sex with a new partner can be incredibly exciting. There’s the exhilaration of the unknown, the delight of discovering the hidden sweet spots and distinct turn-ons and kinks. But it can also be incredibly nerve-wracking. Will you be sexually compatible? Will they be into the same bedroom fun as you? And can you make that first time explosive without being too aggressive too fast? Take a look at the best sex positions for first time sex.

1. Yab Yum

This position involves sitting up straight looking at each other's eyes. “She straddles him wrapping her legs around him. I like this position because you both are giving and receiving. It creates instant connection and intimacy,” says Dellepiane, a sex and relationship coach.

2. Woman On Top

“She has more control of the experience, which is helpful in a culture that tends to put much of the pressure to perform on men,” says Dellepiane. This is especially helpful if it's your first time and you don't know much about what they like. “She has the opportunity to take charge and show him how fast, slow, hard or soft she tends to like it. This is very important information when you are just getting to know a new partner,” says Dellepiane.

3. Missionary

It's a safe and loving position that helps build trust. “It doesn't have to be boring. Placing a pillow underneath her butt can increase pleasure by changing the angle. Using your hands to touch different parts of her body can make the sex less genitally focused (like it is in porn.) This can help men to last longer and have more of a total body experience,” Dellepiane says.

4. Alternate Missionary

“You can raise one of her legs or knees so that you're entering her at a better angle. Think of your body lying on a five-degree rotation from hers,” says Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast. This will also allow more space for a deeper thrust. “Remember, you don't need to be long to get deep!” says Procida.

5. Doggy

“Take a knee! Act like football practice and be on one knee instead of two. You'll have a better range of motion and better ability thrust deeper. This tweak is also more comfortable than kneeling on two knees with your legs squeezed together,” says Procida. “Give her ass a squeeze. If she moans, give it a (moderate!) slap for good measure,” Procida says.

6. Reverse Cowgirl 2.0

This is a great position for new lovers who aren’t quite comfortable with eye contact during sex. “Take the classic Reverse Cowgirl and have the man bend his knees so that the woman can grind and rub her pelvic area against his lower legs during penetration. He gets a great view and the ability to thrust from below and she gets to control the pace and depth while facilitating the clitoral rubbing that tends to lead to orgasm,” says Astroglide's resident sexologist, Dr. Jess.

7. Calves Around Neck

This position allows deep penetration, access to her G-spot, and eye contact, says James. “If you want to be a little more adventurous but not come off to strong, have her rests her calves on your shoulders, and if she’s extra flexible the position can be even more fun. You can deeply penetrate in this position so thrust in slowly at first to measure her pain. It’s a great way to also reach her G-spot, as well as still maintain eye contact,” says James.

1st Time V/s 101st Time