Okay people, don’t freak out already. Look down upon this kind of relationship as much as you want but unsurprisingly, it does exist. Yes, some people just want to have sex and they tend to navigate into the dangerous waters that ‘friends with benefits’ are. But if you play it like a pro, there’s more to gain than to get hurt as opposed to the prevalent notion. Don’t even think about the movies where the ‘friends with benefits’ end up falling in love. It doesn’t happen always! Here are 10 reasons why it makes sense to venture into this feared yet much desired relationship.
1) Well, first things first, the sex is great! The guilty pleasure of having sex with a ‘friend with benefits’ is orgasmic. Since you both are in it for sex, and sex alone, you are all up for experimenting, and who doesn’t love that?! It’s an enormously different experience from having sex with your ‘girlfriend’ or ‘boyfriend’. And it never, ever gets boring.
2) This is one facet of life that not many are lucky enough to explore. A friend with benefits is not a one-night stand who is gone when the sun comes up and the liquor washes out. This person is a partner and you both have a relationship. A kind of relationship that is hard to explain but so luring to explore.
3) Where’s the time for love? You are already working your ass off trying to make it big and really don’t want ‘a thing called love’ to step in and hold you back. More obviously, you just don’t have the time to fall in love.
4) You won’t be judged. You both are already unabashedly revealing the grey side of your personalities, so what’s there left to be judged?
5) There’s no drama – nope, nothing at all. No interference in each other’s lives makes this situation ideal for a no-strings-attached physical relationship that doesn’t feed off feelings.
6) Moving on from a ‘friend with benefit’ is not even slightly as hard as it is to move on from a breakup in an actual romantic relationship. Since it is strictly no emotions involved, you will be back in no time. No tears shed, no hard feelings and no urge to look back.
7) There’s no room for expectations. You meet, have a good time, have sex, and go your own ways. Nobody expects a lovey-dovey post-sex text or a late-night call. There’s an unstated understanding, that you might not be the ‘only’ fuck buddy of the person you are fuck buddies with. So, there you go, out of sack is out of mind.
8) This kind of relationship doesn’t actually demand any commitment. You are having sex and if you ever get bored from it, you simply talk it out and move on. You don’t have to ‘have to’ stay or try hard to make it work. If isn’t working, it isn’t working.
9) Most people regret loving the wrong person but you don’t really regret having a wrong friend with benefits.
10) At the end of the day, if you do it right, this is a relationship that entitles you to freedom and fun at the same time. And that, my friend, is the best of both the worlds.
